When you give your heart to someone, you give it without strings attached. You give your heart without anything in return. To have this sort of unattached, unconditional love is the only way you know you really love someone. You protect them, you care for them. You would do anything for them because you want the very best for them and you would have it no other way.
What happens when that person doesn't love you as much as you love them? Do you continue to pour your heart out for that person? Do you love them in spite of how much they don't love you? Lets take this a step further. What do you do when that person not only doesn't love you, but they also don't respect you? Do you ignore their actions towards you and continue to love and respect them? How much is too much? How far are you willing to let it go before you wake up?
It's draining to have someone around you who you would do anything for and have done anything for but they don't share that same sentiment. They push and fight you every step of the way when it comes to respecting you but you do any and everything they ask of you without so much as a word about it. It gets to a situation where you almost feel emotionally used. You have their back when things go awry in their life. You support them, you listen to them, you try and uplift them when they are down, you check on them and you give your time and energy to them and what do you get in return? Rudeness, silence, not a care or investment in what's going on in your life. Hell, they don't even ask you how your day is going. The only time the acknowledge your very existence is when they feel like talking to you, want you to do something for them or want you to do something to them.
So, what do you do? Do you continue to let them suck the life out of you without giving you life? It's a personal choice and in a lot of ways it depends on who it is. For my life I am going to slowly cut those people off. Love should be unconditional but you shouldn't degrade yourself or let someone use you, you can love them from afar. What they sow they should reap. If you put out selfishness and and disrespect then you will start to get it back. Remember, never care more for someone than they care for you, you will always end up on the losing end. Also remember if you don't cultivate the relationship with someone who loves you with a clear heart then you will find yourself alone.
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